Empowering Your Loved One
You might be concerned about pushing your spouse farther away or upsetting them and making them angry. While this might seem like an ideal way to help the situation, brushing things off and avoiding the issue is only going to lead to an exacerbation of symptoms in the long run. It is important to remember that addiction is a progressive condition, and without professional intervention the associated symptoms will only continue to get worse over time.
When it comes to stopping these enabling behaviors and making the switch to empowerment, it is important that you take the necessary steps to help yourself first. This often means seeking the support of an addiction specialist or of a licensed therapist with a personal background in substance abuse and dependence. It is also a good idea to seek out the guidance of a support group like Al-Anon. Once you begin to empower yourself you will be more capable of empowering your loved one. Empowering someone does not mean picking up their slack or doing everything in your power to take care of the problems that repeatedly occur in their own lives. It means providing the person you love with the tools that he or she needs to succeed in sobriety.