Of course, everyone will experience a bit of jealousy or be a little judgmental from time to time. But for some people, these emotions are something much bigger and start to affect their relationships and lives.
Character Flaws and 12-Step Recovery
Step 6 of the 12-Step program is based on the idea that We were entirely ready to have God (a greater power than ourselves) remove all these defects of character. But this step does not mean that you have to become perfect–you just have to be ready and willing for it happen. Step 6 requires you to take stock of your shortcomings and actively work on replacing these character defects with healthier behaviors.
Addiction enables you to hide from your character flaws, so when a person becomes sober, they may be surprised to learn that they have a few of them. This is normal, and it’s a good thing. In recovery, there is no expectation that you should be able to get rid of each character flaw. It’s just not realistic. Progress is what’s important–not perfection. Working through the 12 steps will help you build self-awareness, so it’s easier to understand your character flaws and improve your well-being.
Step 6 and the Immersion Program of Recovery
At Immersion Recovery Center we have carefully developed a unique program of addiction recovery that is based upon the 12 step program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Step 6 of this 12 step program focuses exclusively on character flaws and how to effectively overcome them.
According to the official Alcoholics Anonymous website, “Step Six—’We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character’— is A.A.’s way of stating the best possible attitude one can take in order to make a beginning on this lifetime job. This does not mean that we expect all our character defects to be lifted out of us as the drive to drink was.” Essentially, the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous (the main program literature, in which each step is thoroughly outlined), explains that we work to continuously better ourselves without clinging to unrealistic expectations. We do not work through the 6th step and wake up to find ourselves pure and unflawed. We simply become aware of the areas that require improvement and commit to working on them honestly and long-term. We commit to removing the behavioral patterns that no longer serve us.
Active addiction keeps us stuck in a place of severe denial. We are unable to take an honest and searching look at ourselves because we are so engrossed in substance use. When we finally do get sober, all of these flaws might come bubbling to the surface. Rather than reach for chemical substances as we are used to doing, we are forced to face these issues head on. Doing so can be overwhelming – this is why Immersion Recovery Center focuses on a thorough explanation of Step 6 as part of our comprehensive, 12 step immersion experience.