4) Practice mindfulness meditation – Learning to live in the present moment will inevitably help you stay positive. Most of the time when we are feeling angry or upset it’s because we are dwelling on past events. Most of the time when we are feeling anxious or overwhelmed it’s because we’re anticipating problems that haven’t even occurred yet. Mindfulness meditation will allow you to stay focused on the present, and change your current circumstances if necessary.
5) Bolster self-esteem by giving back in any way that you can – Once you work through the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, you will be able to give back in an entirely new way – by sponsoring other men or women. Until then, engage yourself in volunteer work, spend the afternoon picking up trash in public parks or offer to help your elderly neighbor with her garden. Engaging in esteemable acts helps build self-esteem, and feeling good about yourself is one great way to stay positive.
6) Remind yourself of where you came from – Maybe you’re having a hard time finding a job, and you start to get down on yourself because of it. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can, and that less than a year ago (maybe just several months ago) you were drinking excessively and doing absolutely nothing to better yourself. Look at how far you’ve come! Now you are actively seeking self-betterment – so what if you hit an occasional roadblock? You have overcome much worse.
7) Set achievable goals for yourself – Start off small and work your way up. Everytime you achieve a personal goal (no matter how seemingly small) you will further build self-esteem, while reminding yourself that you are capable. Maybe your goal is to make your bed every morning, or to make at least one Alcoholics Anonymous meeting every day. Stick to things that you know you will be able to accomplish with a little hard work and determination.